Undoubtedly, the life of Holy Prophet Muhammad Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him is a supreme example of marital relations, good manners and morality. Hazrat Ayesha says,
“Holy Prophet PBUH used to laugh and talk among us in such a way that it was not known that he was a determined prophet. He entered the house with a big smile on his face, used to talk about household needs, and used to ask about the needs of his spouses.
Even if something went wrong, he would ignore it and correct it on another occasion with love and affection. He used to openly praise his wives and encourage them on small matters. He loved all his wives. It was a sign of his love for Hazrat Khadija that he remembered her all his life and he used to send gifts to her friends all his life.
Indeed, the kindness of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) towards his wives is the best example of imitation for all the husbands of the world.
The pages of history bear witness to the fact that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) never raised his hand against a woman or drove her out of the house, nor did he humiliate them. He never threatened to return to her father’s home and never threatened to divorce any of her wives.
If the Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) was ever bothered by anything, he would have become silent and would have understood that the Holy Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) did not like what we said.
It was a sign of respect and care for the wives that if there was any talk about one wife, they would tell the other wives not to tell her, otherwise she would be sad.
Reference from Surah An-Nisa
We Muslims are the followers of the Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) who exalted his wives to a high position of honour and respect and called them shining mirrors. In Surah An-Nisa, the Allah Almighty says,
“Live well with your wives. If you dislike them, then it is not surprising that you dislike something and Allah will create a lot of good in it”.
Woman is a delicate gender. Allah has blessed her with infinite virtues, but at the same time, she has a sense of stubbornness.
Reference from Hadith
The Holy Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Allah has created a woman from a crooked rib. If you try to straighten her by force, you will break her.” (Sahih Muslim)
In fact, there is great wisdom hidden in this parable. Women generally want love, affection, gentleness, protection and patronage. She wanted from her husband to look at her with love, to admire her, to sit next to her, to give her time, to appreciate her deeds. She looks at them all with admiration and gratitude.
Reference from the Life of Sahaba
Sometimes the Companions of Prophet (PBUH) were so busy in worship and piety that they did not look at their wives with interest. The Holy Prophet exhorted them to moderation and said that, Islam is not a religion of monasticism. Your wives also have a right over you. They deserve you to spend time with them and pay attention to them.
Every wife wants justice to be done in her case. In our society, mother-in-law’s relationship is usually not as good as it should be.
It is natural for the mother to suddenly hand over her belongings to other. However on the other hand, the wife starts asserting her right over the husband from the very beginning. In this case, keeping the psychological condition of both in view, the husbands wisely manages to fill the unseen and invisible gap between the wife and the mother very quickly.
He deals with his intelligence in such a way that he is obedient to his mother and does not do injustice to his wife. Because where he is entitled to paradise by respecting the rights of his mother, he also respects the rights of his wife.
On the other hand, girls who are brought up in an Islamic environment and are well-educated, quickly adapt themselves to the new environment and become helpful to their husbands.
And in case of having more than one wife, it is the husband’s responsibility to treat them equally with justice in their food, shelter, and other necessities. Leaning too much on one side and ignoring the other is not acceptable in Islam at all. Such a person will have to go through the most severe torment on the Day of Resurrection.
It is narrated on the authority of Abu Hurayrah that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said:
“Whoever has two wives and is inclined towards the other, ignoring the one, then on the Day of Resurrection he will be in a state where half of his torso has fallen.” (Ibn-e-Maja)
The wife has the right not to be praised by her husband for the beauty and virtues of another woman because in this way suspicion is likely to arise in his heart. The wife wants her husband to praise her and her deeds. This process makes the home environment pleasant. The Holy Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Give each other gift”. Therefore, it is the wife’s right for her husband to give her gifts according to her status. In this way, the spirit of love and affection grows between the husband and wife.
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